How To Become A Good Parent

How To Become A Good Parent

Last updated on December 19, 2018. 

What Makes One A Good Parent?

Good Parents are the real guardians!  The first line of defense and a one person army for a child, who is going to love them unconditionally, no matter what.

Yet, sometimes, courtesy of grievous circumstances of because of some things that one has no control over, parents turn out to be the very individuals that harm their children in the worst ways imaginable, more than any sex offender or a kidnapper ever could.

An Absentee Parent vs. A Non-existent Parent

It is harder for a child to recover from the scars left behind by a parent that was never even there in the first place rather than an absentee parent – a parent that was physically there to sign their name on the dotted line that said “Parent’s signature” under it and get their child the basic necessities of life.

It is such absentee parent that makes a child wonder why they ever gave birth to them if they were just going to ignore their existence for the rest of their life. Such children know for a fact that they have more use as a trophy or an item of display to show the world how perfect their family is, while the reality cannot be more further than the truth.

What Makes A Good Parent?

A parent has a pivotal role in a child’s life. They are the ones that are responsible for everything about their children.

From giving birth to them to raising them and what not – parents have a huge impact on every single sphere in a child’s life.

Thus, if they abuse their role as a parent or are negligent of their child or their needs, both emotionally as well as physically, they are going to leave a huge mark on their life that is bound to follow them for the rest of their life.

On the other hand, if they believe that by simply giving their child a good home to live in, the best education that they can provide them with and all the worldly needs that they can think of, it does not necessarily makes them a good parent at all.

Especially, if they are basically ignoring their child and are barely there to even know the slightest think about their children or bond with them emotionally.

In such situations, a parent is nothing more than an overrated caretaker.

A good parent is:

·       Part of Every Sphere of Their Child’s Life

A good parent is always there for his or her child, in every part of their life – right from the day they were born, to the time they took their first step, to when they cut their first tooth, to their first day of school, right down to their wedding and everything in between.

They know their child inside out and their children take strange sort of pride in such situations. It makes a child feel loved and secure.

·       To be There for Them Always

Everybody needs someone they can fall back on.

For a child, which someone usually happens to be their parents, if they feel secure enough in that relationship.

A good parent is supposed to love their children unconditionally, which roughly translates into them being there are their children through thick and thin.

They will help them out through the difficult parts of life, hold their hands and help them get through it all.

·       Protect Them Fiercely

Another thing about a good parent is that no matter the consequences, no matter how bad does it get, a parent will always protect their children, under every single circumstance.

Thus, even if a parent has to stand up against a crowd of people who are against their child, they should do it, fearlessly and without any hesitation.

In times where cyberbullying, cyberstalking and other very similar ailments are plaguing us, parents need to be safe and on their guard at all times and always.

Even if they have apps to help them out, they should do so without any hesitation.

Good Parent The Bottom Line

We live in an age where a parent needs to be all the more vigilant and all the more careful with their parenting because there are way too many temptations around a child today that are enough to lead them off course. This is where being a good parent counts since they would be able to lead their children to a better future.

We would like to invite you to contribute your suggestions/feedback if any in this regard to the below comment box.  Let us share our experiences together, and have a wonderful time ahead.

Thanks, Philips for the opportunity given to present my views on your esteemed page #Philipscom.

Wish you and your readers a great week ahead.

Best Regards,

Angela Smith

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AFTER PUBLISHING THIS POST ONE OF OUR LONGTIME FRIEND AND FAMOUS AUTHOR  JAIME BUCKLEY SEND AN AMAZING FEEDBACK IN THE COMMENT BOX.  AS IT IS VERY APPROPRIATE TO THE SUBJECT HERE I WOULD LIKE TO ADD JAIME’S COMMENT AS AN ADDED INFORMATION TO THIS POST.  READ ON…

Heya Philip!

Long time no hear…so I was glad you reached out after posting this article.

But I think I know why you did, as we both know what my number one passion is: children.

As a father to 12 beautiful (and properly raised) children…and now #13 on the way (yay!!), I have a few comments to make here.

The #1 Parenting Skill

I haven’t forgotten about those of you who have asked for idea and thoughts about parenting. Both Kathilynn and myself have been discussing this for months. We didn’t want to take a shotgun approach, because that’s not our parenting style. At the same time, I don’t want to spew out my perspectives and say that one way is better than another. Frankly, I feel that’s wrong and I don’t have any right telling you what to do with your own family.

No, what we want to do is share what we do and explain why we do it. Our family strives to operate on principle rather than personalities. You may not agree, but to me, wrong is wrong, no matter who does it—your child, my child, it’s all the same. The same goes for what’s right and there are many people out there who should be supported and their rights as parents protected. That’s another talk for another day.

Today I wanted to share the #1 Parenting Skill you should acquire and develop:

LOVE

Stop just a moment. I want to say something here.

I have never met a parent who didn’t want the best for their child. Yes, I’ve met all sorts and some I have met didn’t have the skill sets to be parents, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t want anything less than what they felt was the best for their own children. At the same time, our definition of love and how to show that love will most likely differ.

For example, my definition of parenting isn’t giving a child what they want just because they want it. It also doesn’t mean I condone or support them in what I feel is wrong. What I mean by love is that no matter what happens, I will do everything in my power to provide, cherish, protect, guide and instruct my children to be responsible, kind, industrious and productive individuals who can think for themselves.

Why? Because then and only then, will they truly be happy and have the hope of a good and satisfying life.

What I specifically mean by “loving my children,” is that they are cherished and valued because they exist. Nothing more. We have trials. We have problems, just like any other family. What I try to express to my children is that they are loved, not because they are smart, obedient, talented or good looking. It doesn’t matter what they possess or what grades they get in school. I love my children SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY EXIST.

That’s what makes them valuable to me.

Think about that for a spell and ask yourself WHY you love your children.
…and do they know it?

What EVERY Parent should understand………

What is your position on “choice”?

I specifically mean a persons right to make a choice for themselves.

I’m asking this because, in my family, I teach our children that there are only two choices in life:
• you act, or;
• you are acted upon.

Think that through as much as you like, I’ll wait….

Done?

Now this ability to choose for ourselves comes with a price. It always, always, always comes with a price. How do I know this? Because anything I do affects other people. Good or bad, my choices have a direct or indirect effect on those connected to me. It’s silly to think that we do anything alone. It’s a hoodwink, that is. Complete rubbish.

This is where parenting comes into play. There are what we call ‘natural consequences’ for the things we choose to do. Again, good or bad. Well, maybe I should say there are results—but sometimes, even when we do the ‘right’ thing, there are those opposed to it and we suffer anyway—so that you’re clear on my view there.

Parenting. Right.

There something EVERY parent should understand, and that is they have far more power than they realize, IF…and I stress “IF” they utilize the combination of choice and natural consequence.

EXAMPLE: I have taught since my oldest could have a conversation with me, all the way down through to Wynnie, who is #11—that I will love, protect and provide for my children, but please, don’t make choices to take you OUT of my protection. what does that mean? It specifically means that there are places I will NOT go and things I will NOT do, for anyone.

So when a child breaks the law, for example, the choice they made required restitution and justice. I did NOT oppose the law. No, I supported it, though I love my child with all my soul. There were natural consequences to the choices made and those consequences were paid in full.

The same goes for anything. If you have rules in your home and they require a child’s compliance, explain it in a loving yet firm way—expressing your expectations. Perhaps you have an overly rebellious child. That’s alright. So long as you continue to love them and allow the natural consequences to follow, they are more likely to learn than not.

Now, there’s a sad twist to this. One we as parents have to grasp and understand. I’ll explain it as my own belief and you judge it as you like:

I support the freedom to choose. Period. But I also allow my children to choose badly.

Did you get that?

My personal belief is to do all within my power to help them, guide them and encourage them, but the older they get, the more they get to make their own choices and live with the very consequences their choices reap for them. Good and bad. This doesn’t mean I compromise any of my rules or standards. Oh no.
The key here is to be that loving guide. To seek every opportunity to patiently and lovingly assist them in so far as they allow it.

Think there’s a flaw in my thinking? Show me and let’s have a conversation.

 

Published on: Mar 19, 2017 @ 18:35

Last updated on December 19, 2018

Author Bio: Angela Smith is an exemplary writer when it comes to, consultation on tech-related issues.  She works for mobile spy app for android blog as a senior editor at TheOneSpy and an active contributor to provide her experience based researches. If you want to know more about her you can reach her on twitter @LatestTechBlog

 

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16 Comments


  1. A very timely post.
    Each parents can pick some lessons from this informative and well written post. Indeed it’s a nice post.
    Keep sharing.
    Happy to be here today.
    I am for the first time here.
    Thanks for sharing

    Reply

  2. Hello Philip! Pretty crazy… No school to help us raise our kids LOL Great share my friend. Chery :-)

    Reply

  3. Great points, Angela! Philip did well in choosing to allow you to guest post! Even when children do wrong and have to suffer consequences, they should never have to doubt their parent’s love. We owe it to them to give them the best bedrock possible to build their lives upon.
    Barbara in Caneyhead from
    Life & Faith in Caneyhead

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  4. Hey Philip,

    Every parent wishes to be the best parent in the world. But when the life turns into reality, most of the parents fail to remain best parents or at least good parents.

    Parenting is, in fact the interpersonal relationship between parents and children. The depth, intensity or the methods or relationship is highly personal and what works between few parents and children may not be the same for certain parents and children.

    Expressing love and affection is the most important way of making good parents. Being good parents is making kids happier and safer. Eventually, thanks for exploring best tips regarding such a beautiful topic.

    With best wishes,

    Amar kumar

    Reply

  5. It’s been 7 years we become parent and I have to say that this is a huge learning experience so far. Many people think that giving birth to a baby is called parent. But to become a good parent, one need many counselling and knowledge to understand the brain of kids and accordingly adjust with them to give them comfort. Then only your kid will get the perfect environment to grow to the fullest.
    Wonderful article shared here.

    Reply

    1. Hi Santanu,
      Thank you so much for the value-added feedback on parenting.
      I fully agree with you. Keep sharing.
      Have a wonderful time of sharing ahead.
      Season’s Greetings to you and yours.
      Keep visiting.
      Regards
      For Philipscom
      ~ Ann
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  6. Very nice article on Parenting …!
    All parents should read this, as there are some vital points mentioned in this post. The author very well crafted some of the valuable lessons all parents should follow. Thanks for sharing this guest post with us.
    Keep writing. I like this very much, Indeed a Good One. Best Wishes ..!!!

    Reply

  7. Nice article on parenting!But parents must not be fiercely protective. The children of over protective parents may become lazy and inefficient. Parents should train the children to become efficient and self-reliant.

    Reply

  8. This is indeed a wonderful post, all parents should make note of the points given in this post.
    The guest author did a good job with this post by pointing out the necessary things the parents should follow.
    Thanks for writing this for Philipscom.
    Best Regards
    ~ Ann

    Reply

  9. Heya Philip!

    Long time no hear…so I was glad you reached out after posting this article.

    But I think I know why you did, as we both know what my number one passion is: children.

    As a father to 12 beautiful (and properly raised) children…and now #13 on the way (yay!!), I have afew comments to make here.

    The #1 Parenting Skill

    I haven’t forgotten about those of you who have asked for idea and thoughts about parenting. Both Kathilynn and myself have been discussing this for months. We didn’t want to take a shotgun approach, because that’s not our parenting style. At the same time, I don’t want to spew out my perspectives and say that one way is better than another. Frankly, I feel that’s wrong and I don’t have any right telling you what to do with your own family.

    No, what we want to do is share what we do and explain why we do it. Our family strives to operate on principle rather than personalities. You may not agree, but to me, wrong is wrong, no matter who does it—your child, my child, it’s all the same. The same goes for what’s right and there are many people out there who should be supported and their rights as parents protected. That’s another talk for another day.

    Today I wanted to share the #1 Parenting Skill you should acquire and develop:

    LOVE

    Stop just a moment. I want to say something here.

    I have never met a parent who didn’t want the best for their child. Yes, I’ve met all sorts and some I have met didn’t have the skill sets to be parents, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t want anything less than what they felt was the best for their own children. At the same time, our definition of love and how to show that love will most likely differ.

    For example, my definition of parenting isn’t giving a child what they want just because they want it. It also doesn’t mean I condone or support them in what I feel is wrong. What I mean by love is that no matter what happens, I will do everything in my power to provide, cherish, protect, guide and instruct my children to be responsible, kind, industrious and productive individuals who can think for themselves.

    Why? Because then and only then, will they truly be happy and have the hope of a good and satisfying life.

    What I specifically mean by “loving my children,” is that they are cherished and valued because they exist. Nothing more. We have trials. We have problems, just like any other family. What I try to express to my children is that they are loved, not because they are smart, obedient, talented or good looking. It doesn’t matter what they possess or what grades they get in school. I love my children SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY EXIST.

    That’s what makes them valuable to me.

    Think about that for a spell and ask yourself WHY you love your children.
    …and do they know it?

    What EVERY Parent should understand………

    What is your position on “choice”?

    I specifically mean a persons right to make a choice for themselves.

    I’m asking this because in my family, I teach our children that there are only two choices in life:
    • you act, or;
    • you are acted upon.

    Think that through as much as you like, I’ll wait….

    Done?

    Now this ability to choose for ourselves comes with a price. It always, always, always comes with a price. How do I know this? Because anything I do affects other people. Good or bad, my choices have a direct or indirect affect on those connected to me. It’s silly to think that we do anything alone. It’s a hoodwink, that is. Complete rubbish.

    This is where parenting comes into play. There are what we call ‘natural consequences’ for the things we choose to do. Again, good or bad. Well, maybe I should say there are results—but sometimes, even when we do the ‘right’ thing, there are those opposed to it and we suffer anyway—so that you’re clear on my view there.

    Parenting. Right.

    There something EVERY parent should understand, and that is they have far more power than they realize, IF…and I stress “IF” they utilize the combination of choice and natural consequence.

    EXAMPLE: I have taught since my oldest could have a conversation with me, all the way down through to Wynnie, who is #11—that I will love, protect and provide for my children, but please, don’t make choices to take you OUT of my protection. what does that mean? It specifically means that there are places I will NOT go and things I will NOT do, for anyone.

    So when a child breaks the law, for example, the choice they made required restitution and justice. I did NOT oppose the law. No, I supported it, though I love my child with all my soul. There were natural consequences to the choices made and those consequences were paid in full.

    The same goes for anything. If you have rules in your home and they require a child’s compliance, explain it in a loving yet firm way—expressing your expectations. Perhaps you have an overly rebellious child. That’s alright. So long as you continue to love them and allow the natural consequences to follow, they are more likely to learn than not.

    Now, there’s a sad twist to this. One we as parents have to grasp and understand. I’ll explain it as my own belief and you judge it as you like:

    I support the freedom to choose. Period. But I also allow my children to choose badly.

    Did you get that?

    My personal belief is to do all within my power to help them, guide them and encourage them, but the older they get, the more they get to make their own choices and live with the very consequences their choices reap for them. Good and bad. This doesn’t mean I compromise any of my rules or standards. Oh no.
    The key here is to be that loving guide. To seek every opportunity to patiently and lovingly assist them in so far as they allow it.

    Think there’s a flaw in my thinking? Show me and let’s have a conversation.
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  10. Very nice post, a very timely post for all parents, indeed a must read to all parents.
    A well-presented post, the

    Reply

  11. Hey Philip,
    This is my first visit to your website,
    Indeed this is really a lovely and pleasant experience to go through the posts.
    Well written posts with a lot of information filled in.
    Parenting is really a hard thing, but if do it well it is one of the best things to do on this earth
    The post shared various aspects of a good parent.
    Thanks for sharing.
    THe incorporated comment of Jaime Buckley is really an added collaboration to the existing post.
    Thanks for sharing this amazing additional information from a BIG parent. :-)
    Keep it up Jaime and Philip

    Reply

  12. Thanks for sharing parental control post.
    Very informative one. I appreciate you for putting together such a lot of things from your experiences.
    I want to add BlurSPY best parental control app which can monitor your child every single activity of his digital devices or gadgets.

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